The Coming Out Process

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The Coming Out Process; Athletes Edition

For most collegiate and professional athletes life is hard, with the media critiquing their every move and also trying to stay on top of their game so they can succeed to the best of their abilities. Now they are all facing change and for few they have to fight adversity. NBA Player Jason Collins, Division 1 College Football player Michael Sam, and Division 1 College Basketball player Derrick Gordon will now have to face one of the biggest adversities and that’s being in active in their current sport as an openly gay player. This will be new for not only them but also the league they each are individually apart of, as they become the ‘First’ openly gay player in each of their sport. As silly as it may sounds the NBA and College sports haven’t been exposed to this sexual preferences for varies reason, people keep it to themselves, players or staff are scared to the be the ‘first’, or simply because players were heterosexual for the most part so no one was ever concern about a homosexual in what is called a “MAN” sport.

This source said best, ‘despite decreasing homophobia, openly gay male athletes are still rare in organized, competitive team sports.’ (Anderson, 2012). Its funny because people change sexual preferences everyday and their coming out stories aren’t nationally televised but yet when these three individuals came out to the public seems like red flags when up all over the sports world. A player could’ve had the best game of their lives but insights on that event will be something sports critics and analyst talk about for a could minutes some may even overlook. However when a player makes a decision of what their sexual preferences is, which has no direct affect to the sport, critics and analyst never seen to let such event rest. Seems like in the sports world nobody thought that a man would come out to his…...

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