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Running Head: Self-esteem vs Narcissism

Self Confidence vs Narcissism

Eddie B



September 11, 2014

In the short scenario media program The Virtual Office, I chose the character Jeanette to discuss because she truly exhibited all the characteristics of narcissism. She came across as being a person who relies on validation from others to maintain her sensitive positive concept. Jeanette is a person who struggles with accepting constructive criticism; she showed that in her responses to her boss by shifting the blame on her peers, and also by becoming very defensive when asked certain questions. Instead of taking the constructive criticism, self evaluating, looking at the positives and applying it to better herself, she chose to view it all in a negative fashion and express herself with negative aggression.

Three Theories of Self Concept Maintenance
Researchers have examined several ways in which individuals actively maintain their sense of self in what can be termed “ self-concept maintenance” (Crisp and Turner, 2010, p. 10). There are three theories in relation to this I wish to discuss, self-evaluation maintenance, the social comparison theory, and finally the control theory of self-regulation. Let’s start by defining each of the three self-concept theories. Self-evaluation maintenance refers to the theory that one’s self-concept can be threatened by another individual’s behavior and that the level of threat is determined by both the closeness of the other individual and the personal relevance of the behavior.
The Social comparison theory was a theory initially proposed by psychologist Leon Festinger in 1954, it centers on how individuals evaluate their own opinions and abilities by comparing themselves to others in order to reduce uncertainty in these areas and learn how to define themselves. Finally, the control…...

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