Grief in Children

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Liam is four years old. His father has told him that his grandmother has gone to sleep and will never wake up. Liam is sure his father is wrong, because he knows that everyone who goes to sleep wakes up again. Carley, age three, has slept in her own bed ever since she was two years old. Now, since the death of her father a year ago, she not only wets the bed, but also tries to consistently sleep in the room with her mother. Jacob is five years old. He constantly plays like he is going on a trip to visit his Uncle Sam in heaven. These three children are different ages and have lost different role models in their lives, but they share one thing in common. All three are experiencing the grieving process. The grieving process in children differs very much from the grieving process of an adult. This must be taken into consideration by Early Childhood Educators when teaching children how to cope with this grieving process, as it is an Early Childhood Educator’s role to ensure that all children develop healthy emotional and social habits (Clarissa A., 2002) . To develop these healthy habits, it is essential that Early Childhood Educators know how a child’s concept of death is constructed, which gives caregivers and educators important information and helps them respond more sensitively to what children might feel and experience (Clarissa A., 2002). The online journal article, called “The Grieving Process in Children: Strategies for Understanding, Educating, and Reconciling Children's Perceptions of Death” (Clarissa A., 2002), clearly gives an overview of how children understand death, and suggestions for educators about how to help children through grief and loss. The website, www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au (Better Health Channel, 2013), also gives an overview of a child’s reactions to loss and grief, and how to share feelings of grief and go through the grieving…...

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