Grandparents Parenting

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Grandparent parenting is a growing trend that seems to be more common than ever these days. Since it has become more common for us to see teen pregnancy, single parents, and troubled young people having children it has led to grandparents stepping in to fill the needs of these children who have parents that are not available to be parents. They suffer from the lack of parenting knowledge, or legal issues, or simply were not ready to give up their lives to care for their children. Their mentality was no where near ready to be a parent.
According to Grandparents Parenting Again website there are 2.4 million families that are maintained by grandparents who have their grandchildren living with them. There are effects to this parenting situation. First of all normally grandparents are viewed as ones who are there to love and spoil grandchildren, and suddenly they are in a role of parent and disciplinarian. This means that the child can miss out on traditional grandparenting from their grandparents. For the grandparents it can create a sense of resentment. It is not intended for a grandparent to feel that way. But there is a sense of freedom that they may have felt when their own children were raised and out on their own, which is now taken from them in place of becoming a parent once again later in life.
There is however a sense of heroism if the grandparent has stepped in to stop their grandchildren from being placed in the social services system. These grandparents have saved these children from uncertainty. These children would otherwise be either in a poor environment with parents that don't care well for them or thrown into "the system. There could be abuse issues or substance abuse problems that the parents of the children are going through. This is no situation for a child to have to live in. Sending children into a cold and heartless system causes great…...

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